If I come to your house, how can it be targeted harassment? I'm putting myself into that situation, especially if I was not invited.

This also speaks to what I was saying earlier. I get on quite well with Ele (to the surprise of none on the other side of this debate, I'm sure). A reasonable person wouldn't report him in his hypothetical. I don't like the N word at all, i find it very off putting. Now, either I wouldn't say shit, because I was in his server and I'm sensible enough to understand that context, or I'd express my opinion surrounding why I think it's a gross word. An example point is that there are black americans who would otherwise be alive today, but they're not and that's the last word they heard. Either he'd listen or he wouldn't care - I can't control his response, only my own input.

He's never said it around me BTW, just for the people who like to say "oh you just want to say [insert word]" - I've never seen Ele write it in game, that I remember.

Now, let's say it's not Ele, because I don't want to colour his response in that situation, but say this happens with someone, here's a few things that they might do in response:
1) Stop saying it altogether
2) Say it less around me, if they happen to like me or feel like being more polite that day, whatever
3) Say it the same amount as before, ignoring my opinion
4) Repeat it over and over and call me a bitch ass n-word puss-puss.

If this hypothetical person did #4), in his own server, what do you think my response should be?
1) Should I stay in his server (which doesn't have "public" written on the desc, which I joined of my own will), and report them for being a big-hot meanie face?
2) Or stay in his server and use the ignore feature?
3) Should I laugh it off because, in the grand scheme of things, these are, ultimately, just words and my reaction to them is my own responsibility? Even though this hypothetical person is trying to get a rise out of me, that doesn't necessarily mean they have control over my emotions. Either I have control over my emotions... or no one does.
4) Should I take the hint and fuck off?

Are you suggesting number 1 is the most appropriate response when I'm in someone else's server? What if I don't have a problem with the n-word, and I predict he'll taunt me with it if I express my dismay, and I use that messy social engineering to report him?


Can you see why people have such a problem with this nebulous, unnecessary rule? Do staff give any fucks at all? I mean, I honestly can't blame them for not giving a fuck, especially if they have people constantly whining at them about big-hot meanie pants' nasty word attacks. I'd probably just go for a bit of censorship too if I had to keep listening to that shrill nonsense.
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I'm guessing he was referring to that whole "slut-shaming" stuff a few years back, which that noble noted virgin Amber Rose brought to the mainstream. I think there was a march.