Originally Posted by
Icky
Why does my opinion matter to you? You and I both know you will/would argue against it even just on the premise of continuing the thread.
Sure about that? If you think bud is problematic, then you think it's problematic. I'm hardly gonna change your mind.
Originally Posted by Icky
But I'm aware enough that my personal reasons for it are due to my experience with it, which differ greatly to others. I think buddy is a shit word for the same reason.
Yeah, I get that some people find it problematic.
I just don't buy it. I think it's a totally silly thing to get all up in arms about.
Originally Posted by Icky
Being told not to call someone that, by that person themselves no less should be enough for you to not do that. Otherwise you're that kid from the playground that thinks it's cool to be a bully.
Irrelevant of your disagreements over the words offensiveness on a topic/issue you don't directly deal with, you're being a dickhead. And you know that.
If you think it's a microaggression and isn't that big a deal, fine. Your opinion. But if you suddenly just start using that word with the full intent to be antagonistic, then you're being an asshole, and being an asshole on purpose isn't micro anything. It's just being an asshole.
Look mate, I'm not about calling gay people 'faggots' or black people 'niggers'. If something is legitimately offensive, I won't say it.
But part of what's wrong with the world right now (in my opinion) is that 'offense' seemingly has everything to with the someone's perception and nothing to do with the 'offendors' intentions.
That's why I took a stand on 'bud' being an OK way to refer to people (that and the common sense notion that only somebody wacky would get offended by its usage). Not to be antagonistic, but to stick up for (what I perceive to be) common sense. I really don't care if you call me a dickhead for that. Sticks n stones may break my bones but words are just words.
But I can be gracious. For you, Maya and anyone else who finds 'bud' to be an offensive, transphobic term, I will stop using it. That's my gift to you. You don't have to thank me.
Concept creep gone mad.
Last edited by Ele; Feb 13, 2020 at 04:35 PM.