Originally Posted by
Grohenbird
I am not of the opinion that a fetish for a specific race is racist if you are using the textbook definition of it, which is inherently negative.
why not
Originally Posted by
Grohenbird
Sexual fantasies can be creepy, and you're entirely justified in being put off by a fetish that you disagree with, but intense sexual attraction toward a race is, in my opinion, entirely understandable, as is any other fetish.
it's not like i don't understand it, but i'd ask them to exercise restraint. don't obsess. don't tell asians 'i just love asian women'.
Originally Posted by
Grohenbird
I do think it should come down to intent, though.
i don't. for one, it is unknowable. we can make inferences but can't know intent for certain. secondly, you could have the best of intentions while saying 'i just love asian women' but that doesn't make it okay to say.
Originally Posted by
Grohenbird
Attraction to a demographic can be problematic and damaging if not kept in check, the same as any attraction could be. Fetishes toward certain races will probably damage your chances at a real relationship with them, because if it's something you genuinely struggle to suppress, I'm sure many people would feel that you can only view them in a sexual sense.
my point exactly. just don't obsess.
Originally Posted by
Grohenbird
However, I think that if your ambitions don't lie in simply pursuing your object of desire, most people can live totally normal lives without any risk at offending anyone, because what you nut to should never be a point of offense on anyone's track record unless you are literally considering having sex with them.
would it even be a fetish if you're not pursuing it? like not going out of your way to watch that kind of porn? also that last part is absolutely false. we can and should be allowed to condemn pedophiles that consume child porn, at least in my opinion. do you disagree?