Originally Posted by
Nathan
Really, that's all I was planning on doing, but the thing is, he's 33, she's like 26, and I'm 14. Even if I wanted to interfere or something like you said, my voice would not be heard.
I guess this is more just a crappy thing that happened rather than a dilemma.
Yeah, that does make things more shitty. But yeah, but be there for him, and if you need someone to talk to about it either ask your parents or guardians or maybe someone at school. Stuff can be confusing, and its important to talk it out with people.
Originally Posted by
Fee
deady, I only suggested a virgin, as I personally would have been more comfortable losing my virginity to someone in the same situation as me. I wouldn't hold the number of sexual partners a girl has had against her, just as long as it came to it I was safe. Just thought I'd clear that up, your post made me sound like an asshole. ;)
:P I didn't mean to Fee. I figured you weren't you aren't an asshole, I just wanted to make a point about the whole virgin=better girl thing and how its generally stupid. And yes, that is a good point about being comfortable with someone who is also not experienced. lol, I remember one girl laughed at me after we kissed (it was my first French kiss) and felt like a total tool. I suppose with this that same thing could be amplified.
Originally Posted by
cocacobra
Dear, deady
nice thread what if one girl likes you and shes pretty hot but the other girl your not sure if she likes you but shes REALLY hot what would you do deady?
There is an old Russian saying that I think applies nicely to this situation, and one I wish I had followed with my first serious girlfriend, "A man who chases two rabbits, doesnt catch either of them". So basically, make up your mind, and pick one. Worrying about both will only leave you and both girls alone or with someone else.
As for the super hot girl, sometimes, not always, but sometimes, really pretty girls like to leave you guessing. She might be totally uninterested, but enjoy knowing that she has you wondering or that she is taking attention away from kinda hot girl. Or, and I think this is more likely, a lot of times when you are attracted to someone it is easy to misread normal things as being signs of interest. She might be just being friendly with you after all. Of course, there is always the possibility that she DOES like you and is just waiting for you to make a move. Since I am not in the situation it would be dumb of me to try and say which one fits best, but I think you can figure it out if you are honest with yourself.
The other girl, the one who is "pretty hot but..." is obviously your safest bet. However,
you also shouldn't waste the girls time if you arent interested in her, or are more interested in someone else. So basically don't do that ass hole thing where you try for the one girl but keep the other one waiting in case it doesn't work out with the super hot girl.
You can't pick who you are attracted to, it just doesnt work. And when you have to decide between two people, its a pain in the ass. So either way, bottom line, make a choice, and stick with it no matter what the consequences. If you go after super hot girl and it works, awesome! If she doesnt like you though, dont expect kinda hot girl to still be waiting, and even if she is it would be dishonest of you to do anything with her. If you decide that you DO indeed want to try with kinda hot girl, forget about super hot girl entirely and focus on trying to make kinda hot girl happy. Remember, you can only chase one rabbit at a time, and in the end as long as you pick one instead of worrying about both and running back and forth like a tool, it normally works out for the best.