Take it as real life, say your dating this "girl" and "she's" really shy not wanting to open up too you, then one year later "she" is still really shy and hasn't changed a bit. The day you notice that there is something wrong and you ask "her" and "she" responds "Truth is, i'm a guy." you then realize you wasted a year trying to get in a guys pants.

It will only be worse if you force an advance on "her" becuase then you see a dick... then what.?
I'm already too far into this but i'm basically saying it's weird too the point where it's fucked up.