Yes, I am very stuffy. I have even been accused of 'not liking fun' before. Usually I just miss that it's a joke and take it at face value.

Deluxed: I didn't tell you to be quiet. I told you to use discretion. There is a huge difference. Also, if you have to quantify that what you just said or are about to say isn't racist, rude, mean, then it probably was. I do apologize if I upset you. I assumed you were babbling. It is common among the young and the nervous.

Crow: Is there a window we leave open? How do you keep getting in here? Also, this is the normal process of people getting to know each other. Deluxed is a 'high energy' person it seems. They tend to be reactive. I can see how he was upset. The crucial part is how I deal with it. I can either ignore his stated feelings or search for empathy. I choose the latter. Now hopefully he will choose the same.