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Good question. I'll think about it.

First thought is just 'If I see it, I'll know it'. Present me with a problem and I can tell you if it's a real problem or not. In my opinion it would be fairly self-evident.

That leads to my second thought of 'Well, it's not self evident to everyone, is it? Some people think it's a real problem'.

Which leads to my third thought of 'The problem can be subject to a 'reasonable/almost any person'' check'. In the first article it talks about the concept of 'trauma' and how conceptual change affected it. It used to be that for an experience to be considered 'traumatic' it would only be traumatic if 'almost everyone' would agree that it was indeed a traumatic experience. Another way to look at it; many countries have the concept of a 'reasonable person' embedded in their legal system (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reasonable_person). If any 'reasonable person' would consider x to be x, then x is x. If any reasonable person considers microaggressions to be a bullshit problem, then microaggressions are a bullshit problem.

Which leads to my fourth thought 'Shit, what if a 'reasonable person' isn't actually reasonable anymore'. Pretty much nothing is safe from concept change (except maybe hard, concrete realities). What if almost everyone gets sold on the idea of microaggressions being valid (microaggressions are now 'reasonable'). What if everyone decides it's a reasonable thing to no longer clap (it's 'anxiety-inducing' for some), and everyone starts jazz-handing instead. What if that becomes the new norm?

Which leads to my final thought (for now) of 'No, that's ridiculous, people won't just accept bullshit because SJWs tell them they should'. So, I guess I stand by my 3rd thought. We can distinguish actual modern problems from pathologized problems through an 'almost everyone/any reasonable person' check. For the purposes of that check, anyone with super-strong leanings, one way or the other (SJWs or Nazis), can be safely ignored. That said, I'm not saying the SJW camp can't ever identify a problem that 'almost anyone' would agree is a problem - I'm sure they could (and probably have). I'm saying that everybody else (reasonable people) would have to agree with them in order for the problem they raise to be recognised as a legit problem.
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Beating them senseless isn't the same as disciplining them for doing something wrong -_-.
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Originally Posted by Maya View Post
All of this assumes that the majority of people are reasonable and understand the implications of their actions.

For instance, the majority of people are still queerphobic and casually spread queerphobic ideas through jokes or otherwise. Just because the majority doesn't see it as an issue doesn't mean it's not an issue. The majority of people have been bigoted for the entirety of human history. Leaving any of this up to "most reasonable people" is ridiculous because of this context. Centrism doesn't help us here (or ever).

I'd challenge your contention that most people are queerphobic, at least in modern western societies. You can't go out and call a gay person a faggot. That is a shunned act - You would get shouted down by onlookers. I also think that you can't draw a straight line between someone telling a joke (e.g. a wife-beating joke) and then some bozo going out and beating his wife because he heard that joke. It doesn't happen.

With respect to making jokes, I think this is another appropriate time to drop this quote;
"Although conceptual change is inevitable and often well motivated, concept creep runs the risk of pathologizing everyday experience and encouraging a sense of virtuous but impotent victimhood."

Disregarding universal queerphobia (which isn't a thing), the views that reasonable people hold change over time, of course. American founders were quite content to own slaves, as was everyone in the ancient world. It was a reality of the times. There are doubtless other 'moral revolutions' waiting to happen - And if they've valid, reasonable people will jump on board and establish new moral norms. That's how it happens.

Using the 'not wanting to fuck transexuals is bigoted' example, that ain't a valid problem. Tonakai, one of the most level-headed dudes I know, even agreed that that specific point was 'dumb'. The world will never come to a place where everybody thinks it's bigoted not to fuck a transexual, because that is simply not a reasonable concept (not now, not ever).

Factory farming is a legit problem, and if you talk with people about it, while they may view it as a necessary evil (there's a lot of mouths to feed), they'll also contend that when it no longer becomes necessary (and yes people will argue about whether its even necessary right now), it ought to stop immedietely. There's a moral revolution here waiting to happen, and it probably will happen. Reasonable people (spurred on by activists) will make it happen. This brings me back to what I said earlier;
Originally Posted by Ele
For the purposes of that check, anyone with super-strong leanings, one way or the other (SJWs or Nazis), can be safely ignored. That said, I'm not saying the SJW camp can't ever identify a problem that 'almost anyone' would agree is a problem - I'm sure they could (and probably have). I'm saying that everybody else (reasonable people) would have to agree with them in order for the problem they raise to be recognised as a legit problem.

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Originally Posted by Maya View Post
You'd like to think that, I would too... but that's actually not the reality. In most places even here in the US people do not feel comfortable coming out as queer, nevermind being visibly queer on the street.

There's gays kids everywhere. It is not a taboo these days - It ain't the 50s.

Every now and again you'll see a video of some person being racist/sexist/homophobic to another person in some public place (like a bus). You ever see the comment sections for these videos? It's full of people calling the racist/sexist/homophobic person a piece of shit. Bigotry aint acceptable and any reasonable people knows that.

Originally Posted by Maya View Post
It removes weight from these issues, makes light of them.

Yes, that's what jokes are supposed to do. You take serious issues and you turn them into comedy. I think that putting a category of people into a space where they're 'protected' from jokes actually just disempowers and furthers the notion that these people are victims who should be treated differently from everyone else.

All comedy is fair game. There are bad jokes and there are good jokes. I've heard funny woman-beating jokes and I've heard horrible woman-beating jokes. Woman-beating jokes ought not to be banned. If they're bad, don't laugh.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
So the majority of German citizens just being complacent with the alienation and subsequent genocide of Jews... the reasonable people jumped on board because it was a valid moral revolution? It's not that simple at all.

There's some historical ignorance at play here. The German citizenry was not aware that Jews were being slaughtered in concentration camps. It wasn't until after the war that the true horrors of what was taking place came to light.

People rallied behind Hitler because he was 'Making Germany Great Again', not because 'Fuck The Jews'. In fact, many Germans were uncomfortable with the Nazi party's stance on Jews, so much so that Hitler and Goebbels substancially toned down that sort of rhetoric as the war progressed. The 'Fuck The Jews' thing was more of a personal project for Hitler (and some others of his inner circle).

If America was at war with Mexico and it came out that Hispanic Americans were being slaughtered in concentration camps, everybody would be suitably shocked and appalled. No reasonable people would agree with that shit.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
Would you like me to ask Tonakai if I can share the screenshot of the discussion between him and I on this, where he changed his mind and agreed with me on the issue? He sure is level-headed, as you said.

Sure. I'm somehow not surpised that you got him to tell you he changed his mind. I hope you didn't do it using that same 'logical' argument you used in that thread, because that was shithouse.
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Originally Posted by Maya View Post
In online spaces, sure. In specific cities, sure. But the majority of people are still not exactly the most active in these spaces. There is much of rural America where being queer is not okay at all. Also, lots of people are queerphobic while not necessarily spitting at/beating up/shouting slurs at queer people they see. I still cannot casually say something that suggests I'm queer in most online spaces without getting rude replies.

Gonna have to agree to disagree about the majority of people being queerphobic. Ain't reasonable to call gay people faggots.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
The problem is that you don't know what a "good" joke about trans people is... because you don't understand trans people.

Mate, comedy is subjective. What you think a 'good' joke is is different to what I think a 'good' joke is. We all have our own senses of humor.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
Jokes painting trans people as weird or ugly are in bad taste and truly aren't funny to progressive people who have subconsciously normalized transgenderism.

Yes. Some jokes aren't for some people. Doesn't mean people shouldn't be allowed not to joke about them. If they're in bad taste and unfunny, then they're in bad taste and unfunny - Don't laugh at them.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
You don't see white comics making jokes punching down at black people anymore because we've deemed that humor inappropriate and in bad taste.

I've seen plenty of white comics engaging in racial comedy. Seen plenty of it that's funny too.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
I don't want us to be "protected" from jokes... but if the only jokes made about us by cis people are about shitty, negative, inaccurate stereotypes associated with trans people, then we've got a problem.

It seems like you do want to be protected from them. You don't want people to be allowed to make those jokes. 'Shitty, negative, innaccurate'... Shitty is subjective, but other than that, you want all jokes to be 'positive' and 'accurate'? That'd result in some really fucking boring comedy mate. Comedy is supposed to challenge your sensibilities.

"How do you get a faggot to fuck a woman? You fill her cunt with shit". That is a joke that's in bad taste and uses some very offensive language. It's also hilarious (in my opinion and in the opinion of everyone else who laughed at it during Gilbert Gottfried's comedy special). Precisely because it's so wrong and offensive, it's funny. You can think it's a shit joke and that it deepens prejudices and whatnot, that's your right. You can't tell people what jokes they can and can't make though.. You can piss off with that joke-nazi thinking.
Originally Posted by Maya View Post
I'm not going to continue a discussion on this specific topic here, but people were complicit. Poles especially so. I've done a great deal of research on the topic and have heard a number of stories from family.

Don't wanna talk about it? But you're still right because you're supremely educated on the topic? OK bud. Whatever.
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Originally Posted by Icky View Post
Oh really? No way, such a distinction was beyond my understanding prior. You've really opened my eyes with this astounding lack of absolute awareness and understanding of viable and transferable comparisons that aren't at opposite ends of the hypothetical spectrum.

Beating them senseless isn't where the line of abuse is. Its like that stupid thing people used with "if ur hand is open its ok" and/or "if theres no mark its not abuse cuz they didnt bruise"

Imagine thinking that. Imagine justifying that kind of behaviour. If you equate abuse to beating a person so hard and for the length of time needed to actively impair their cognitive functions. Then you are suggesting that any amount of beating up until that point comes under discipline.

Now, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say that is probably not what you meant, but it's what you've implied pretty heavily. So feel free to re-explain where you think that "abuse" line starts and what examples of *physical* discipline are a-okay.

Cause I'm real curious.

Why the long post. If a kid steals or gets in a fight, pop them on the hand with a paddle. Don't beat them with a belt though...
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I mean plenty of us have gone through it and we're not dead.
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Good point. I only support corporal punishment at the minimal level.
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It is natural as humans grow up too. Getting a scrape or broken bone, touching a stove, getting bit by an animal, etc.
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Disciplining your child, in an ideal world should not be inflicting pain, but taking privileges away or giving them work to do.

I would much rather cut down trees for 3 hours than be hit with a belt/paddle again. My dad whipping me made me seethe with anger, resentment and cry. These are emotions you shouldn’t feel towards your parents, and it’s why I don’t have a relationship with him today.

When you give the child work to do as punishment, ideally, it teaches them how to do that work later on in life. Such as replacing a toilet, window, sink that they broke. Of course, you would know how to do it so you can guide the child to fix it.

If your child truly respects who you are as their parent, your words/actions should be enough of a deterrent from bad behavior. I, however, am not against spanking your child. If that’s how you get your point across, good for you.