I just dislike bud more than mate. Why do you feel the need to question my comfort with these words?

I'm going to once again ask you not to use that word. It has masculine coding and I do not feel comfortable being referenced with it. I don't know how many times I have to ask you not to use masculine coded words to reference me. You're doing it intentionally and it is obviously malicious.

Originally Posted by Icky

Congrats. A lot of victims are though.

Some of possible reasons why are;

You dodged a bullet, you lucked out.

Or your memories of the discipline and your rantionalisation of them make you see they werent that bad but the imprint they made was severe.

Your parents weren't abusive.

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Justt cause the survivors survived, doesn't mean its a viable way to go about things.

Originally Posted by Thorn

I'll take the hardship of having peaceful nonconformists over fighting and war any day, the idea that we need our life threatened because people are annoying on Twitter is pathetic

Originally Posted by fudgiebalz

is this saying that life needs to be violent to be normal?

Originally Posted by Ele

No.

It's saying that our identification of 'violent'/'problematic' acts becomes broader and more encompassing over time, for a variety of reasons. That's concept creep (the first article).
The other part of this is that as things become rarer, if we're looking for them, we can still find them even when they're not there, solely because we are trying so hard to look for them. That's prevalence-induced concept change (the second article).

If you take these two articles together, it explains something that's happening in our culture. We look for shit to complain about in the absence of really big smelly shits (we complain about farting perhaps, which isn't even shitting).
We whinge and cry about stuff that people who've dealt with actual existential threats would brush off. We get mad at Smaiva for making a 'did u assume my gender' joke.

"Although conceptual change is inevitable and often well motivated, concept creep runs the risk of pathologizing everyday experience and encouraging a sense of virtuous but impotent victimhood."

Modern living absolutely has its problems. I'm not denying that. I am asserting, however, that some 'modern problems' are only problems because people are looking to make mountains out of mole-hills (pathologizing everyday experience).

My recommendation for everybody to go get punched in the face is aimed at getting people to put their threats into perspective. Life doesn't need to be violent to be normal, but having some violence in your life can put things into perspective.

Originally Posted by sirkill1

Lol you say all this like it's a bad thing that life becomes easier for future generations, I'd love to see your attempt at surviving a cold winter in 1785 Russia, starvation style.

Originally Posted by Ele

Certainly not. Just that we become softer as true threats become scarcer, and in this scarcity of true threats, we start to broaden the idea of what a true threat actually is.

I wouldn't want to live 100 years ago, and you wouldn't either (as you said), because we both recognise the difference between true threats and soft threats.

Originally Posted by Icky

Why does my opinion matter to you? You and I both know you will/would argue against it even just on the premise of continuing the thread.

But I'm aware enough that my personal reasons for it are due to my experience with it, which differ greatly to others. I think buddy is a shit word for the same reason.

Being told not to call someone that, by that person themselves no less should be enough for you to not do that. Otherwise you're that kid from the playground that thinks it's cool to be a bully.

Irrelevant of your disagreements over the words offensiveness on a topic/issue you don't directly deal with, you're being a dickhead. And you know that.

If you think it's a microaggression and isn't that big a deal, fine. Your opinion. But if you suddenly just start using that word with the full intent to be antagonistic, then you're being an asshole, and being an asshole on purpose isn't micro anything. It's just being an asshole.

Originally Posted by Maya

You're judged by your actions, not your intentions, as with anything else in life. You cannot kill a person with the intention of defending your property when they posed no threat to you. Does your "innocent" intention justify the murder?