Alright gentlemen, a friend and I were having a debate about which matters more to maintain a relationship. You can only pick one of the options. None of that "all women are queens and should be treated as such" women are cool but this is hypothetical. If you could only have one, which would it be and why?

(this applies to guys too btw if you like men, love is love lads)

personally, I'd choose the first option b/c most of the time i value the logical thinking abilities of an individual and would probably need a lifeline to keep me from drifting off into autism mode, also SEX IS GOOD


what're your thoughts on this matter? i'd like to hear!

I feel like it should be broken down into three individual attributes; Attractiveness, Intelligence, and personality. I believe there needs to be a solid balance of the three for a relationship to actually work out in the long term. Personally, if a chick isn't the prettiest but has an amazing personality it wouldn't work for me, and the same with the other possible combinations, for me personally. If she's not good looking, smart, and a good personality I couldn't imagine anything working in the long term. Like I could do a one night stand with a girl that only had looks, could be friends with a girl who was intelligent, and could be friends with a girl who has an amazing personality but to date and form a serious relationship around there has to be a balance out of all three, with that being said out of the choices I would pick attractiveness and intelligence just because that's a better balance than personality alone, if you can't wake up, roll over, and be happy at what you're looking at that simply won't work, if you can't hold a serious conversation with them that also won't work, and if you don't have similar senses of humor than that also will not work or at least that's how I look at it. Curious to hear what others have to say.

Honestly if i choose either one, i would inclined more to personality.
We will spend our time together if you're in relationship, therefore if you have a contrast personality to maintain it would be tricky and personally i would find it troublesome. I always see their personality first whenever i choose my partner.

Its A & I because I'd like to have genetically heightened kids so they have easier lives. Simple as that for me.

If you could only pick one you simply couldn't maintain a healthy relationship. Good match is finding someone that you find both physically and mentally attractive. Of course it's a bit of a personal view, I know some people could date a braindead girl as long as she has good tits and ass, but generally speaking you can't go far with it relationship wise.

If I had to choose one I'd go with personality, since shallow people usually have low morals so they tend to cheat and whatnot.

If you have A&I ,then you probably got nice personality lol.I mean stupids are not boring but you probably got bigger chances ,if you are an intelligent person with great charisma and you probably got better personality

i think its kinda wrong to put attractiveness as its own thing
i guess you are referring to genetics and body, but that doesn't define what attractive is.
as long as you have a good hygene,grooming and stlye you are precieved as attractive even if you don't have the look.
what if we do personality vs body features:
well personality is defenitelly much more important than how your face/body look. why?
just look around and you will find more ugly guys with epic personalities getting hot chicks than those who look like fucking greek gods but are quite boring.
people are more attracted to those they can have more fun with. its a fact!


intellegence is defenitelly attractive aswell but its still pointless if you don't have the personality.



to make it simple: looks and intellegence are not going to get people to like you as much as (if ever) a good personality.

personality

realistically speaking, we're all going to die and our lives really don't mean anything if we're not enjoying it (in my opinion). Sure, A & I are neat, but I don't take them that seriously because attractiveness is subjective and intelligence comes in many different branches/forms.

if my s/o makes me happy, that's all i can ask for. we'll go through the struggles of life together until the life energy drains from our bodies and into the next.

or whatever dimension hell would be, i guess

Personality, She can be the prettiest and smartest woman in the world, but if she's a total bitch then you're gonna regret every second of the relationship

Loyalty 8/